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Originally Posted by Toaster126
Fuck me, I need to stay out of these threads...
Well, hey, if everything is working out exactly how you want it, why do I keep seeing your posts asking for advice and input? Maybe the trains of thought you are having aren't the most condusive for personal growth. Just because you try something new doesn't mean it will automatically work out perfectly every time.
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I'm aware of that. I make posts like these to explore how I'm dealing with new situations. Sometimes things turn out well in the end, as with my TA, and sometimes they don't, as with this one. Sometimes I don't deal with the situation as well as I should. Writing about it, good or bad, helps me to explore the situation. Just because I've decided not to try it again without Sissy or Grace there for support doesn't mean that I've given up completely. And even if I have, that doesn't mean I didn't learn anything from this encounter or that I can't do that through discussion.
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The first time I used a vaccum tube I was pretty slow about it. The person behind me honked a couple of times. I didn't give a shit, I did what I needed to do, and went on with my buisness.
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Good for you. I mean that without any sarcasm or irony. I wish I had the strength of character to not let stuff like that get to me.
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You can only grow so far without challenging yourself and failing. The difference is that you need to pick yourself up and do it again. Trying once and failing isn't productive, because it's only reinforcing your preconceived notion that you can't do things. So keep trying things, and when you can do them it the whole situation will seem as silly to you as it does to me.
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I am trying new things, on a pretty consistent basis. This one was a failure, and I thought it would be helpful to examine why. Should I only post about successes?
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It's only "foolish" if you decide the lesson here is not to try and leave your little comfort zone. The lesson is that when we stretch ourselves, we need to accept the possibility that we won't succeed the first attempt, but to dust ourselves off and try again.
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I've been doing that, again and again. I've been to four parties in the last four months, none of which I enjoyed. I don't anticipate that I'll ever enjoy a party, but I keep going because not doing so might be bad for my career.
Deciding to go back with someone there with me to show me how it works and provide a little insulation from impatient people behind me instead of alone is hardly giving up, it's just taking a different approach.
Gilda