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Originally Posted by maleficent
It's the perception that if a guy is single, then he's on the prowl for the next available piece of tail... Ergo you have to be on the defensive to stop that... Guys who are 'taken'... (well some are.. but most aren't prowling... and are safer candidates..
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Safer candidates for what exactly?
In my experience women indeed let their guard down more when dealing with a guy in a relationship, but that's not really the issue here. Its that women notice and flirt more with more when said men are in relationship. If you flirt with a guy who you know is in a relationship, what exactly are your intentions? If you are flirting with a guy just because he's "safe" and you want to entertain yourself (since its not going anywhere), you're being selfish at the very least. Or is the issue here that YOU get an ego boost when you get attention from a guy in a committed realtionship?
I have to say that even just walking around in the Mall with my GF I get a lot more attention and approving looks from girls just passing by than I ever did before or when I'm in the Mall by myself. Yes it is an ego boost, but it also pisses me off, because I remember how difficult it was to get that sort of attention when I was single, and I'm generally less concerned with my appearance now than when I was single. I also get a lot more pointless conversation and flirting from women when we go out. Women need to realise that women are the primary reason men cheat, so you need to act responsibly. Go flirt with the single guys. Most of them would appreciate the odd ego boost.
The flipside of this is that at work, when I'm on a project with a women and I see that she is very guarded, I casually mention a few things about my girlfriend and our relationship, which normally eases the tension and makes the working environment easier. It also conveniently avoids potential for flirting.