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"I don't care about (insert here)."
My SO said this once to me in the middle of a conversation we were having regarding my best friend. I was super-offended, because what he "didn't care about" was a vital point that made my best friend and I, well, best friends. After I dropped him off at work, I told him jerks can walk themselves home.
He later tried to make excuses that he was "just blunt" and I said that I didn't buy that. Either he had better learn some social graces or else he would be dealing with my hurt feelings--and I wasn't just going to settle for "I'm blunt." You CAN'T be blunt in a relationship. You can be HONEST, but bluntness, especially when it's interjected into a middle of a conversation, does not go over well. I also told him his statement, "I don't care about ---" suggests to me that he doesn't care about me, or what I care about. While this was not the case, I told him that he has to think about how what he says sounds to me, and how it makes me feel. That's part of what the "social graces" of being in a relationship are about.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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