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Originally Posted by fresnelly
A big no-no is pointing out the attractiveness of others. For example: "We got a new receptionist today. She's really pretty, so I wonder if that's why the boss hired her."
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I'm not going to disagree with you in regards to your relationship, but in mine pointing out how attractive other women are and exactly why is practically an avocation with us.
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Also, never agree outright with a negative self assessment. For example: "Ugh. My hair is just awful. Don't you think?" Tread very, very carefully here. 
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Again, I'm not going to disagree as regards your relationship, but when I ask a question about my appearance, I want to be told the truth so that I can fix it before I leave and others see it, or so that I'm not walking around at home all the time with a hairstyle Grace thinks is ugly.
You know what your problem is?: This will never produce a positive response. Criticism must be tempered with tact.
It's generally a good idea to phrase dissatisfaction within a relationship by using "I" statements. Instead of saying, "You're a foul-mouthed asshole," you can say, "I feel uncomfortable around you when you use language like that."
Gilda