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Originally Posted by SAM821
Its very difficult to achieve unconditional love. But if you do achieve it, you will know you are in love because no other man/woman can ever capture your interest if you are truly IN LOVE with your wife/gf.
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I see where you are coming from.. and 99.9% of the people i know would agree wholeheartedly with you.
However, I will have to disagree here. Like i said, in my previous post, i don't define "love" by the absence of things (like the absence of being attracted to/having feelings for other people as you noted)
my husband loves me, as close to unconditionally as a human being can. And i equally him. It is that level of love and trust that allows us to persue these secondary relationships.
In our case, Having feelings for other people does Not mean that i'm not in love with my husband or he with me.
I dunno, i think billege made a good point when he stated that perhaps love is on levels.
Will i ever love someone else as much as i love my husband? No, i don't think so.
Will i feel a different but practically equal kind of love for these other people, yes, i do and i will.
Love can be expressed and defined in so many different ways
Like i said... the idea of "love" is so different not only how each human being defines it, but also how it is defined and practiced in a relationship as well. Which makes this a tenuous convo. to have... but interesting none the less.
i will have to agree with Billege though... we have no real dissentors who want to answer in this thread?
sweetpea