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billege · 02-25-2006, 02:23 PM

A point on the thread, rather than on the thread's topic.

We must have hit a unique cross-section of the TFP with this one. It’s more than surprising to read a thread full (so far) of responses that are (to apply a label) pro-polyamorous.

We could certainly go around the world discussing where our societal norms come from, and even try dismissing them by virtue of them being the norm (which would be silly), but it’s obvious in the extreme that the majority of at least “western” societies are not polyamorous.

In this thread, we seem to have not run across anyone that’s saying “Gee, no I don’t think my spouse having sex with another person is a problem, so long as they love us both as much.” Anyone else notice that?

I think part of the reasoning is that the question is phrased about love being limitless or not. Well, simply put, what poster wants to get out there and say “love it limited.” So, I think we’re not seeing as much dissent, not even close, as we should.

To make my point in another way, I’d like to put out there what I think would happen if we made another thread that touched on this same subject in another way.

Let’s say:

A woman on the TFP wanders into the Ladies Lounge with a concern. Her concern, in our theoretical thread, is that her husband has told her he is equally in love with a woman he’s met at work, and he’d like to escalate that relationship to include sexuality.

I don’t feel I’m remotely going out on a limb to say the VAST majority of posts would be telling her man is full of shit. I daresay we’d find a dearth of posters willing to say “Oh honey, don’t worry, so long as he loves you both and you communicate a lot, it’s fine if he’s banging her like a screen door.”

Yet, in this thread, we have a majority that seems to agree such an event would calmly be accepted, perhaps even encouraged.

I’m not calling bullshit that some people would explore that choice, and don’t think I am. Okay, really, I’m not saying if you WOULD discuss that with your mate, or if you would not. I am calling bullshit on the *thread* so far.

My wife would kick my ass straight out if I told her “Baby, I love this other chick, and I think I want to have a sexual relationship with her. But I love you just as much.” You’d see one hell of an example of someone who’s not into the idea of polyamorous love.

I’m calling bullshit because there’s a ton of people in the TFP that should be posting, something like “no, if you’re really in love you don’t go around fucking other people too.” And then discussing why they thing singular love is where it’s at.

C’mon, where’s the dissent here?

02-25-2006, 02:23 PM	#29 (permalink)
billege Watcher Location: Ohio	A point on the thread, rather than on the thread's topic. We must have hit a unique cross-section of the TFP with this one. It’s more than surprising to read a thread full (so far) of responses that are (to apply a label) pro-polyamorous. We could certainly go around the world discussing where our societal norms come from, and even try dismissing them by virtue of them being the norm (which would be silly), but it’s obvious in the extreme that the majority of at least “western” societies are not polyamorous. In this thread, we seem to have not run across anyone that’s saying “Gee, no I don’t think my spouse having sex with another person is a problem, so long as they love us both as much.” Anyone else notice that? I think part of the reasoning is that the question is phrased about love being limitless or not. Well, simply put, what poster wants to get out there and say “love it limited.” So, I think we’re not seeing as much dissent, not even close, as we should. To make my point in another way, I’d like to put out there what I think would happen if we made another thread that touched on this same subject in another way. Let’s say: A woman on the TFP wanders into the Ladies Lounge with a concern. Her concern, in our theoretical thread, is that her husband has told her he is equally in love with a woman he’s met at work, and he’d like to escalate that relationship to include sexuality. I don’t feel I’m remotely going out on a limb to say the VAST majority of posts would be telling her man is full of shit. I daresay we’d find a dearth of posters willing to say “Oh honey, don’t worry, so long as he loves you both and you communicate a lot, it’s fine if he’s banging her like a screen door.” Yet, in this thread, we have a majority that seems to agree such an event would calmly be accepted, perhaps even encouraged. I’m not calling bullshit that some people would explore that choice, and don’t think I am. Okay, really, I’m not saying if you WOULD discuss that with your mate, or if you would not. I am calling bullshit on the thread so far. My wife would kick my ass straight out if I told her “Baby, I love this other chick, and I think I want to have a sexual relationship with her. But I love you just as much.” You’d see one hell of an example of someone who’s not into the idea of polyamorous love. I’m calling bullshit because there’s a ton of people in the TFP that should be posting, something like “no, if you’re really in love you don’t go around fucking other people too.” And then discussing why they thing singular love is where it’s at. C’mon, where’s the dissent here? __________________ I can sum up the clash of religion in one sentence: "My Invisible Friend is better than your Invisible Friend."