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Dude51 · 02-24-2006, 07:50 PM

I was in a relationship for a long time, and when I got out of the relationship I used a couple things from this post to make life easier.

First of all, your natural charm will win over any girl that naturally matches you. You shouldn't change to match a girl that doesn't match you because in the end, you will revert to what you used to be. If you don't think that you will, or if you choose not to revert, you will become very tired of putting up a smoke screen. That being said, I don't think you should be a messy, ignorant slob. Being courteous and dressing for success works in personal life as well as business.

The one key area that I found people had a hard time with (those that I hung around with when I was single) was conversation. People just didn't know how to have a conversation with a girl and keep her interested. Sure, starting a conversation out of the blue may seem daunting, but if you can find a common topic with a girl (where you are, what you are looking at, etc.) then it's really actually quite easy to keep the girl interested.

As mentioned earlier in this thread, you must ASK QUESTIONS. It's really that simple... women love talking about themselves. Ask a question, get a reply. Now find a subject in what they replied to you about and ask a question about that. Keep going and you won't have any awkward spots during the night, AND she might even ask you some questions and show you that she is actually interested in you. Once you get passed that awkward stage (date 3 or so), you should be able to make a decision whether or not the girl fits your personality or not.

Oh, and it's not stupid to practice conversation skills. Ask a buddy of yours, or show him the method so you can practice on each other.

Remember:

1. Yes, you shouldn't look like a dufus, but be yourself. Don't go and buy chains or see through shirts if that's not your thing. You'll attract the wrong type of person if you are actually trying to find a relationship.
2. Ask questions about every answer to the previous question. This will string along the conversation so there are no awkward moments, and you'll appear charming because you are interested.
3. Gauge her interest level by the number of questions she asks. If she doesn't ask any questions of you, ask yourself if that's the type of person you want.

Easy as pie. Thanks to this thread.

02-24-2006, 07:50 PM	#471 (permalink)
Dude51 Upright	I was in a relationship for a long time, and when I got out of the relationship I used a couple things from this post to make life easier. First of all, your natural charm will win over any girl that naturally matches you. You shouldn't change to match a girl that doesn't match you because in the end, you will revert to what you used to be. If you don't think that you will, or if you choose not to revert, you will become very tired of putting up a smoke screen. That being said, I don't think you should be a messy, ignorant slob. Being courteous and dressing for success works in personal life as well as business. The one key area that I found people had a hard time with (those that I hung around with when I was single) was conversation. People just didn't know how to have a conversation with a girl and keep her interested. Sure, starting a conversation out of the blue may seem daunting, but if you can find a common topic with a girl (where you are, what you are looking at, etc.) then it's really actually quite easy to keep the girl interested. As mentioned earlier in this thread, you must ASK QUESTIONS. It's really that simple... women love talking about themselves. Ask a question, get a reply. Now find a subject in what they replied to you about and ask a question about that. Keep going and you won't have any awkward spots during the night, AND she might even ask you some questions and show you that she is actually interested in you. Once you get passed that awkward stage (date 3 or so), you should be able to make a decision whether or not the girl fits your personality or not. Oh, and it's not stupid to practice conversation skills. Ask a buddy of yours, or show him the method so you can practice on each other. Remember: 1. Yes, you shouldn't look like a dufus, but be yourself. Don't go and buy chains or see through shirts if that's not your thing. You'll attract the wrong type of person if you are actually trying to find a relationship. 2. Ask questions about every answer to the previous question. This will string along the conversation so there are no awkward moments, and you'll appear charming because you are interested. 3. Gauge her interest level by the number of questions she asks. If she doesn't ask any questions of you, ask yourself if that's the type of person you want. Easy as pie. Thanks to this thread.