You have no kids, random people diss you for choosing childlessness (They don't even know if it's a choice, grr!).
You have one kid, random people pester you to have another.
You have more than one kid, and there will be random people who talk smack about overpopulation, of just "Gees, aren't you *done* yet?"
Just can't please rude, thoughtless folks, I guess.
I've chosen to have no kids, and I do think it's COMPLETELY rude for folks to inquire about it. How would they feel if I burst into tears because of the pain of infertility? Or of the child that died? There are tons of people who carry about these kind of burdens, and folks who stick their noses where they don't belong shouldn't be surprised if it gets bit.
I used to get harrassed a lot about it, I don't know why. Total strangers would pester me, I kid you not! It's a huge decision with many deeply emotional ramifications, and it's no one's business to inquire/criticise another's choice, just for the sake of making conversation. Ustwo, that's why it's considered rude.
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