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Originally Posted by SecretMethod70
I am of the opinion that, no, amorous love is not limited. Much like a parent can have multiple children and love each of them, but love each differently, I think that one can feel amorous love with more than one person at the same time and, again, it is unique to each person. It is likely that the feelings of amorous love will be more intense toward one person over others, but I don't think that the love towards that person is necessarily diminished by the presence of amorous love towards others. I also don't think that the more intense love is in any way "better" or "more serious" than the love for others, just different, and perhaps more important to the person feeling love.
Clearly, just because amorous love for one does not require lessened amorous love for another, I don't think that means that all people are capable of sustaining relationships in which amorous love is felt for and directed towards more than one person. Without profound levels of communication and openness on the part of all persons, it would be nearly impossible to sustain such a situation. It seems to me, though, that most people believe it is not just difficult but impossible for one to fall into amorous love with someone else while maintaining the amorous love and bond with an already existing significant other. This is not something I agree with, but I'm interested to hear your thoughts.
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As I stated in another thread, I go back and forth on my opinion as to whether or not I am capable of handling multiple instances of amorous love. There are times that I look back and wonder if I didn't already experience that, but didn't acknowledge it at the time because at said time I considered that inherently wrong.
But regardless of my personal experience with it, I don't believe that love, even amorous love, is limited in either how much you can give to people or how many people you can give it to. While I question the ability of some (maybe most) to rise above their jealousy in the face of multiple cases of amorous love, I do not question the existance of that love. It is the thing country songs and soliloquies have been written about for years. People may not know how to deal with or comprehend it, or just outright misunderstand it in a culture like ours where absolute monogamy is valued above any other lifestyle, but I believe people feel it all the time.
I think few people would argue with me that new love is often more thrilling, more heated than a love that has had some time to build and 'cool.' It is the illusion of these new 'hot' loves seeming to overshadow established loves that leads people to believe that one loves must come at the expense of others. I would like to look at love with kind of a 'heno-amorous' approach. Just because one love exists in a large way does not preclude all other loves from existing, or even necessarily confine them to a lower rung, it simply means that this love does exist too.
It would be an amazing feat in my mind if the majority of people suddenly came over to this state of mind, and I doubt that it society as a whole will reach a point any time soon where this thinking seems beneficial. However, I have no problem with people practicing it on a case by case basis. My only hope is that when people do openly admit to loving more than one person at a time, people around them can at least have the humanity to support them instead of bashing them on principle.
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Originally Posted by Ustwo
I know more teachers into this sort of thing than any other profession, have to figure that out some day  |
For the record, I want to teach high school English. Add one to the count.