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Originally Posted by sweetpea
Okay, i see where you are coming from and my post was not meant in that way.
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Just to clarify here, too... I didn't mean to pick you out in particular, since I know that you are one of the most open and tolerant members of TFP (and you and I discussed this whole topic quite a bit on PM!).
I agree with you fully that as long as everyone is happy and fulfilled, that is okay with me. The only issue I have with the discussion at large is that *sometimes* I feel the polyamorous couples are seen as more "enlightened" than the monoamorous ones... that somehow, monos are too selfish to attain the feeling of "non-ownership" that the polys have reached. Monos tend to say to the polys, "Wow, you guys are truly amazing, I could never be like that." Then it sounds more like a vertical scale of ability (those who are more able to "handle" polyamory) than a horizontal continuum of equally-valid preferences, which is more like how I see it.
As sweetpea said, I think any relationship that is healthy and mutually successful and beneficial is "amazing" and deserving of respect... and people just have different preferences along the continuum of how many lovers one desires to have an intimate relationship with. In this sense, I think love is not limited... but people are just different in their wants and needs.