snowy

I'm going to echo this sentiment. I have been fortunate in my choice of partner, because he knows and respects that we have the ability to love many. But we're so dedicated to each other it would be hard for me to love anyone else amorously.

So--platonic love, for me, is unlimited. Amorous love, too, could be unlimited. But I don't have time (as Toaster said) to be in love with more than one person. Being in love with this one takes up more than enough, and the platonic love I have takes up the rest.

I understand for other people that their priorities are different, or that the kind of love they have for their partner allows them to love others amorously. While fulfilling for some, it's not the path for me. I know I could find it in me to love more amorously--I just don't want to.

Secondly, I don't think having a deep love for someone in a secondary relationship would or should interfere with a deep love in a primary relationship--if the partners in the primary relationship are really in love with one another, then they are fully understanding of the other's heart and what it is capable of. For instance, my SO is fully understanding of the fact that I am quite close with two guy friends of mine. These are two men I love very deeply. Yet he knows that the love I have for him is different and special, and loving these two men doesn't cheapen what we have by any means. And THAT is true love.

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