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Originally Posted by match000
Regarding the one-liners, they only carry you so far. I'm not a quick-witted person, but this can be sort of trained. For the natural players and socialites, it comes as ingrained, but for me I have had to build it slowly but surely. Its not really one-liners more so than how to respond properly to what verbal stimuli people give you; and you only can refine until you try and (fail) everytime you do so.
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I think this is an important point you hit on. The vast majority of people who are "outgoing" or "extraverted" or "socialites" are that way because of the same reasons you aren't. The behaviours that make them comfortable and happy are just different than yours, so as they went through life they picked up a different skill set than you. Both sides of the coin start with ingrained personality traits and then go through life the best way they can. Failure happens to everybody. It makes us stronger and smarter if we use it to learn about the world around us and ourselves.
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