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jRuntlets · 02-20-2006, 08:55 AM

As a girl with various male friends... I look for a man who isn't out to date me. If they are out to date me then they end up being classified in the group of "friends - but very distant ones". Why? Clearly they had no intention of really being my friend in the beginning. Perhaps you come on too strong as wanting to date the women you know. It's one thing to be attracted to the females you are trying to become friends with but it's another thing to put off the "I need a date NOW, but will settle for friends if you don't like me." vibe. Nothing is more off putting than a man who seems desperate for the relationship kind of attention.

Take a look at your priorities: Why is it SO important for you to have female friends? Are the female friends a replacement for a relationship? When you do date someone new do you make less time those female friends?

If your answer to the third question is yes then clearly your need for female friends is as a relationship replacer. No woman wants to replace someone you don't have and be abondoned when you find the other 'her'.

I think men worry too much about having female friends. The more you worry the more you project undesireable traits. Go out, talk to women who have the same interests. You can be friends with all kinds of women and you don't even have to have any sexual interest in them!

The 'parts' your friends have don't matter... just that they're friends. If you feel they're anything less than leave em' behind!

02-20-2006, 08:55 AM	#13 (permalink)
jRuntlets Crazy	As a girl with various male friends... I look for a man who isn't out to date me. If they are out to date me then they end up being classified in the group of "friends - but very distant ones". Why? Clearly they had no intention of really being my friend in the beginning. Perhaps you come on too strong as wanting to date the women you know. It's one thing to be attracted to the females you are trying to become friends with but it's another thing to put off the "I need a date NOW, but will settle for friends if you don't like me." vibe. Nothing is more off putting than a man who seems desperate for the relationship kind of attention. Take a look at your priorities: Why is it SO important for you to have female friends? Are the female friends a replacement for a relationship? When you do date someone new do you make less time those female friends? If your answer to the third question is yes then clearly your need for female friends is as a relationship replacer. No woman wants to replace someone you don't have and be abondoned when you find the other 'her'. I think men worry too much about having female friends. The more you worry the more you project undesireable traits. Go out, talk to women who have the same interests. You can be friends with all kinds of women and you don't even have to have any sexual interest in them! The 'parts' your friends have don't matter... just that they're friends. If you feel they're anything less than leave em' behind! __________________ Horses come and go, but some leave permanent hoof prints on your life.