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I tend to agree that love is an unlimited resource. However, I would like to take a slightly different approach in how I define it.
In order to understand love in terms of amorous love, we need to define what we mean by it. To me, amorous love is born out of a strong physical attraction coupled with a happiness one feels while in the presence of the object of said love. With over 6 billion people on this planet, it is an impossibility to claim that we only feel physical attraction to one person only. It is a safe assumption that we come across a multitude of people on a daily basis with whom we are physically attracted. Couple that with a happiness while in their presence and we have what could easily be argued as a basis for amorous love. The difference is that with most of these people we encounter, we never spend enough time with them to allow such feelings to develop. By allowing these feelings to develop, we enter the realm of amorous love.
Now, I believe that many people confuse insecurity and neediness with love. These people are jealous and possessive in love and are highly unwilling to allow for the fact that we can be attracted to others. In order to validate themselves, these people need constant attention and reassurance that the person with whom they are in love won't leave them for another. They are either unwilling or incapable of allowing for the notion that we can develop feelings for more than one person at a time as it calls into question their sense of security and emotional safety. It is easier to deny what is most likely biological wiring than to confront personal issues that may be painful to address. These people are the ones who snoop and spy on their partners, looking for any indication that something is amiss. They live in constant fear of losing what they have and therefore never enjoy what they have. This is not love.
I do in fact believe in being able to be in love with more than one person, but due to the nature of confused emotions and a misunderstanding of how humans behave and think, I don't think many are able to explore this possibility, simply because that which they perceive as love is not.
Granted, even with those who understand love's true nature will still have feelings of jealousy. We're all human and we all respond to situations differently. This is where ratbastid's post comes into play. Communication and honesty are paramount in securing a relationship, no matter what the circumstances.
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"I can normally tell how intelligent a man is by how stupid he thinks I am" - Cormac McCarthy, All The Pretty Horses
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