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Amorous love is certainly possible to have for more than one. I do agree that in loving more than one person, something is taken from another, but then again the loved ones are not identical, so how can the love be totally equal?
In this way, it is similar to loving your children or family members in that everyone, no matter how wonderful they are, has something not quite so 'lovable' about them.
There are so many levels of emotion, so many ways to be emotionally tied to anyone, that, to me at least, the idea of a single love is more preposterous than the other way around. Yet, societal mores are so ingrained in too many that the mere idea of multiple (amorous) love is downright wrong, dare I say disgusting. Pity, really. By closing ourselves off to the reality that there is more than one true love for everyone, we stagnate. This is not to say there isn't only one for a person's natural life-how many times do we see very old couples still starry-eyed, but by and large, I find that to be an endearingly precious rarity.
The downside is for those who feel they must belong to someone and someone belong to them. For them, feeling any type of love for another is cheating, end of discussion. And for them, they're correct because, as they equate love to belonging solely to one, yet that one has feelings for another as well, it is taking away what they need-ownership.
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