Quote:
|
Originally Posted by Gilda
Congratulations, it sounds like you took quite the emotional risk there and it seems to have paid off. I'm a little bit envious  .
Hmmm. This is what the people trying to help me become more assertive tell me, that I shouldn't care what others think about me. It doesn't make sense to me. If the purpose of being more social is to connect with other people, how can you do that without caring what they think of you? I mean, what would be the point of connecting with people if you don't care about each other? Could that actually be called a connection?
Just questions that hit me. It seems to me that there's no reason to be social if you don't care about other people or what they think of you.
Gilda |
The "don't care about what other people think of me" is an oversimplified version of a more complex attitude. It's not that you don't care, it's more like (hmm this is hard to explain) you don't let other people ruin your fun. Don't care in that don't let others make you uncomfortable/shy/cowardly/whatever just because. Don't care if youre awkward (or rather don't care if they think youre awkward). I think really it's more like "Don't care about what you think that they think (in negative aspect) about you."
Heh hope that didn't just make things more confusing.