Congratulations, it sounds like you took quite the emotional risk there and it seems to have paid off. I'm a little bit envious
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Originally Posted by soma
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While playing poker, I constantly reminded myself that: "I don't care about what these people think about me". It's been something I've been working on, and it seems to be helping. I used to be very very concerned about how people perceive me, but it's starting to fade away. More quickly than I expected, and all I'm doing is just thinking to myself: "I don't care about what these people think about me". Another thing I've been working on is being less sensative. Even if someone refers to me as a bastard/bitch/punk casually, I would get deeply deeply hurt. But recently, I've been trying to thicken my skin by just again telling myself "I don't care about what these people think about me". This helped me get through that game of poker fairly comfortably, but I still felt a bit awkward there just because the people I was playing with were all so ... cool. I'm not used to that.
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Hmmm. This is what the people trying to help me become more assertive tell me, that I shouldn't care what others think about me. It doesn't make sense to me. If the purpose of being more social is to connect with other people, how can you do that without caring what they think of you? I mean, what would be the point of connecting with people if you don't care about each other? Could that actually be called a connection?
Just questions that hit me. It seems to me that there's no reason to be social if you don't care about other people or what they think of you.
Martian: How does that work? Do you memorize a bunch of good one-liners and then wait for the opportunity to use them? Some of us don't think well on our feet.
Gilda