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Ok- now. I have a feeling I should not have brught this up OR I should have filled you in on our backgrounds and relationship. Because it is NOT abuse. He is extremely playful, does not mean to hurt. Hell no am I defending him........I am just simply talking this out. I already said I agree that it disrespectful. I do find that talking with him about when it is not happening at the moment is a great idea and will do so. I think guys don't listen to a girl's feelings when the "problem" is actually taking place.
Let's put it this way- I went into a marriage and had a child way too young and I honestly was not ready for it. I pretended everything was fine when really things were only getting worse. I am thankful I had the experience to learn and grow from.
As my bf, he was engaged and settled, only to be wronged by his fiance.
This relationship right here that we are in is the first for both of us since those other relationships. It's the foundation of a new beginning with experiences to learn from and grow from.
But this new man and I came together- been together for almost a year now. And trust me, every time there is something to be discussed, we discuss it. Every relationship has hurdles to jump- and we mutually agreed in the very beginning that if we choose to have this relationship, that we will do what it takes to make it work. We don't want another "failed" relationship. Relationships don't just flow with the breeze. From the direction he's come from before he met me, he is a drastically different person. But yes- I do feel a tinge of disrespect. But ya know what? As I watched him today- playing with his daughters and my son..........there stood a man that I truly love, love being with and want to be with for the rest of my life. Deep down, all in all, he makes me feel happy.
I like to hear other people's insight- but I guess I just wanted to talk it out to the abyss just to get it out. Helps me think. Sorry to bother you guys. I don't feel I was as concerned as some of you may have interpretted. I remember- as I typed it- I started to wonder how people would perceive it as abuse. But I guess it's kind of hard to get all the know from an online forum.
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