Well, I don't think match is questioning the value of soma's intentions. What he is getting at, I think, is that people tend to always think that there is something they are missing which they believe will "fill" them...in this case, extraversion. And, his point is, once extraversion is achieved, it is unlikely to fulfill whatever need the person is trying to fulfill: basically, the quest for
eudaimonia. This is not to say that extraversion or seeking to become extraverted is a bad thing, only that it is often sought by unhappy introverts thinking that it will make them happy. It is easy for introverts to look at the ease with which extraverts socialize and interpret that as happiness, and then attribute that happiness to that ease in socializing. Truth is, neither state is more likely to breed content. Match, as far as I can tell, is also not making any argument for choosing to be "less socially adept." Introversion is *not* a lack of sociability. It is simply a different method of socializing. Introverts tend to have fewer, but more intense friendships for example. Extraverts tend to have less intense, but far more numerous friendships. I'm not willing to say one is better than the other. In short, I think what match is getting at is that extraversion is often sought as an answer to a problem, but it is not. This isn't to say that it's a bad thing for one to make an effort to become more extraverted, and match makes it clear that he doesn't think this either by pointing out that he is choosing to try and be more extraverted as well. It is only to say that one should be sure and evaluate the reasons for doing so.