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Originally Posted by match000
I've been thinking...
That inherently somehow what we are NOT we believe will fill us. We always seek what we don't have.
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Of course. We don't need to seek for something we already have.
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Originally Posted by match000
In the case of this thread, we don't have 'socialness'. So it will be the 'filler' that completes our lives.
However, once we attain it, we'll just find something else we lack, or that if we DO attain it, we have to trade off something else we ALREADY have in return. We will never be satisfied.
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It's called growth. Initially in life all we want is food. Then we grow more aware of ourselves and our surroundings, and we want to be changed (literally
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Originally Posted by match000
Life is a giant balancing act; we trade-off what we value against what we value less. In the end, we have to realize that the past decisions we made were the best ones we could have made for ourselves at the time, and that we just have to accept who we are.
This does not mean to say self-improvement is not valuable, but simply that we need to take it all in stride and just be content with how we are, despite our constant evolution (hopefully towards the 'better', however it is defined for each person).
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I don't quite understand why you are making an arguement for remaining the same when the OP is articulatly addressing his desire, motivation, and successful results for change in his life.
Also, I can't recall that many folks decide to be less socially adept as a avenue of growth in their life. It's just not viewed that way, which I think illustrates the perception of being socially adept as a good and useful skill.