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Mondak · 05-24-2003, 11:42 AM

Man - in a lot of ways, you just described me. I got beat up every day and I was 135 lbs in my sophmore year in College. I had no friends until I was 16 or so. I started working out and it changed a lot of things. I have a couple things you can do, but they all involve risk. Risk is good.

#1 move out of the house. This is not up for debate. Grab the newspaper and find a few random places in college that are looking for a roomate. Move in to one of them. Now don't expect to be moving in to a social life and don't be too clingy, but if you have some good guys that you move in with, then great. The bigger the place you move in the better.

#2 Everything in moderation. When you work out, go to an aerobic gym once or twice a week. Join co-edintermuals too. There are always people looking to fill out a team and they need one more person like you.

#2b Start drinking. This sounds really bad, but you are in an extreme area. You don't need to be a booze hound, but you can hang out and have a beer. Don't like beer? Have some more. You will like it. Trust me. Why am I telling you this? It helps to loosen you up.

#3 Go to a therapist. If you have to drink to loosen up, so be it. But this is a band-aid. You should not need to drink to loosen up. Go to a shrink (there are usually on campus services for this type of thing that are free and confidential) and work on why you are depressed (yes you are depressed, it is okay you are still a great guy). It is tough stuff to work through, but the younger you are when you fix it the better. Also, just actually speaking about this stuff with someone will give you practice on how to interact socially.

If you ever want to take some turns at Alta, look me up. Mammoth is still running out here and I would be happy to go for a spin with you some time to see if I can help. Feel free to PM me or email me.

Oh yeah - and I took my own medicine. I am now 29 and married to a great girl who I can really open up to.

05-24-2003, 11:42 AM	#19 (permalink)
Mondak Industrialist Location: Southern California	Man - in a lot of ways, you just described me. I got beat up every day and I was 135 lbs in my sophmore year in College. I had no friends until I was 16 or so. I started working out and it changed a lot of things. I have a couple things you can do, but they all involve risk. Risk is good. #1 move out of the house. This is not up for debate. Grab the newspaper and find a few random places in college that are looking for a roomate. Move in to one of them. Now don't expect to be moving in to a social life and don't be too clingy, but if you have some good guys that you move in with, then great. The bigger the place you move in the better. #2 Everything in moderation. When you work out, go to an aerobic gym once or twice a week. Join co-edintermuals too. There are always people looking to fill out a team and they need one more person like you. #2b Start drinking. This sounds really bad, but you are in an extreme area. You don't need to be a booze hound, but you can hang out and have a beer. Don't like beer? Have some more. You will like it. Trust me. Why am I telling you this? It helps to loosen you up. #3 Go to a therapist. If you have to drink to loosen up, so be it. But this is a band-aid. You should not need to drink to loosen up. Go to a shrink (there are usually on campus services for this type of thing that are free and confidential) and work on why you are depressed (yes you are depressed, it is okay you are still a great guy). It is tough stuff to work through, but the younger you are when you fix it the better. Also, just actually speaking about this stuff with someone will give you practice on how to interact socially. If you ever want to take some turns at Alta, look me up. Mammoth is still running out here and I would be happy to go for a spin with you some time to see if I can help. Feel free to PM me or email me. Oh yeah - and I took my own medicine. I am now 29 and married to a great girl who I can really open up to. __________________ All truth passes through three stages: First it is ridiculed Second, it is violently opposed and Third, it is accepted as self-evident. ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER (1788-1860)