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Originally Posted by looselybased
Wow yeah, that really does sound like my situation, and yeah, like Guccilvr posted, I may be focusing a little too much making sure she's enjoying herself. She just recently told me she's feeling really selfish since I wasn't able to get off the last time we attempted intercourse.
And Val_1... I don't know. I hope it is temporary. My last girlfriend sort of messed with my head a little bit and I suppose I am still recovering a little (it's been about six months though, so I'm not sure). The newness does get to me I suppose.
Thanks for all the replies everyone.  |
You're overthinking it. You're working too hard at "making it all happen." That leads to ignoring the sensations, as someone else said, then to anxiety as things don't proceed as you'd like (because you're ignoring the sensations). And then the anxiety shuts -everything- down.
Relax. Just relax. Try to see sex as play, sex as fun. Get silly in bed. Don't worry about the destination. Just have fun with the journey, and the destination _will_ take care of itself. Trust me.