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I understand your hesitation with telling your family. I'm right there with you.
Turbotom and I have been seeing one another now for 2 years, and we have gotten up the nerve to tell his family that we're together, but not mine. We both come from exceptionally conservative families in opposing conservative religions (his = Catholic / mine = Mormon). While I'm fairly certain that my family sees there is something special between us, I am not willing to tell them until I know they will be comfortable with the idea. As time has passed, they have gotten to know him better. They are comfortable with him in the home and happy to see him spending time with me. My dad has hinted many times, "Doesn't it seem like he enjoys taking care of you?" and so forth - as though I am blind to Turbotom's love and my dad has to point it out (hehe). It's getting close enough that I think my family will be happy to hear that we're together in the next year. But at the same time, I see no real point in telling them that there is anything between us until we plan on getting married. Until then, they can just call us Good Friends and leave it at that.
There was a recent "Miss Manners" column in my local newspaper on this phraseology of "Good Friends", but I'm having a difficult time finding a link online to reference.
In any case, don't feel obligated to tell your family just yet. It's really none of their business, no matter how much they think it is.
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