|
My husband and I aren't "swingers" in the go to the clubs sense so I'm not sure if I qualify in this discussion. We did decide almost a year and a half ago to give a more open relationship a try. There were specific friends we were interested in having sex with so we had to figure out how that would affect our friendships as well as our marriage.
First thing my husband had to realize (serial monogamist that he had always been...sex=love HA!) was that it was not literally tit for tat. If he said he wasn't comfortable it didn't mean I was going to pull my ok. He didn't think he had much interest or that he could seperate the sex and love thing so we talked it through for months before going further. We have both had some feelings of being left behind at times but realized it wasn't so and dealt with it. Luckily we are one of those couples that talk about everything and have now had outside interests for over a year. We talked about hitting a swingers club at some point but this is more comfortable for our lives with small children and busy schedules.
Communication and absolute honesty is the key. Everything else is just perception.
__________________
You've heard about fury and a woman scorned, well that is nothing compared to the fury of a woman who has been cheated out of tricks and treats. -Linus It's the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown
Stupid is forever. You can't FIX stupid. -Ron White
|