Sage

Your family sometimes knows what's best for you, even if you don't. If you have a close relationship with your family, and they know you well- listen to them. I dated someone who was *very* wrong for me and I was the only person who couldn't see it. My family tried to tell me, but I wouldn't listen. They saw what being with that guy was doing to me, and they saw how I changed for the worse because I was with him.

Finding "Mr. Right" is a much harder task than finding "Mr. Right Now." Often in our search for love and accepance we (as emoting, sexual beings- man and woman) choose the person who is right in front of us giving us a little bit of positive emotion instead of choosing to wait until we find someone who will give us all of the positive emotion that we need. We accept baggage, difficult situations, impossibilities and the ilk becuase we have convinced ourselves we are no good and therefore must have someone to love us. Sex is not love, attention is not love, presents are not love, presence is not love. Those are are a part of love, but they do not make up the whole.

I am not saying that it wouldn't work. I am not saying that you shouldn't go for it. I am, however, asking you to consider your reasons *why* you are even interested in this guy. Why is he interested in you? Is it because you feel a deep spiritual connection? Or is it because he's getting old and wants to get a younger, newer woman on his arm? Could you talk to him about any topic, any topic at all and honestly share your opnions on the matter, even if they differ? Do you, indeed, have any hobbies or interests in common that are deeper than "Going to the movies" or "Hanging out"? These are all important questions. Lust makes fools of everyone eventually, however, I think that you (as well as everyone) deserves much more than lust. Love is so much grander, although it takes a significant portion of time to find and to nurture.

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