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Originally Posted by sweetpea
However... it seems like the problem you're having is not with what your Parents think... but with your Own hang ups about the situation, and i must say, the warning bells in your head are going off for a reason....
I'm not saying don't go ahead dating this guy... but it seems like you might be in a different place in your life than he is... 12 years is A LOT oder, an ex-wife and a 7 year old child??  I dunno, but that seems like a lot of difficult variables to deal with......
I'd say... proceed with some sincere caution with this gentlemen.
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I agree with Sweetpea because I'm in a similar situation. My husband is 9 years older than me and his daughter was 7 when we started dating. She is now 15 and let me tell you that it has been a hard road to travel. I love my husband madly and wouldn't change my choice for anything, but it's not for everyone and could have put a lot of strain on our relationship. The age part isn't as big of a deal, but the baggage is.
Looking back on your history, you have made some choices in your past where you jump before you think or before you've really thought about it. You have felt the ramifications of this. You have to make your own choices and mistakes. However, you have to stand behind your choice. You shouldn't have to have others tell you that it is right or wrong. You need to be happy with your decision. However, that being said, your family is going to be around forever, unfortunately in some cases. I didn't speak to my family for almost 4 years. That is the one area of my life where I feel a little regret, but it was what needed to be done at the time. However, no one gets any younger and you have to think...how would I feel if something happened to them and they didn't know that I loved them or insert thought/feeling here. I don't think that it is worth giving up your family for a guy...no matter how 'great' you think he is. And honestly, he wouldn't want to be the cause of that if he really respected you....
You have a lot to ponder...I hope it goes well for you this time.