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Gilda · 01-30-2006, 07:25 PM

It's Sunday afternoon, and we're having Sunday family day for the first time in about four or five months, and Sissy's boyfriend of the week is visiting for the meet the family session.

Sissy likes this one a lot, and he passed the first test--he didn't bat an eye at Sissy living with her lesbian sister and her lover, or at the word marriage being used to describe us. Then again, when one of the lesbians looks like a cross between Grace Park and Tia Carrere, and she's not the more feminine one in the couple, it's an easy test for most guys to pass.

So we're on to test #2: The movie test. A few weeks ago, Sissy's date made a point of repeatedly calling Calpernia Addams in Soldier's Girl "he" and evern worse, "it". It's dismaying to see that, but better than finding out later on.

So we pull out a different test movie, Different for Girls a British movie about a post-op MTF who reconnects with an old school friends and the relationship they develop. It's one of the better movies about transsexuals, and nails a lot of the emotional stuff exactly. Late in the movie there's a full frontal nude scene in which the MTF, Kim, slowly strips for her now boyfriend.

Upon seeing the full frontal nude shot, boyfriend of the week, who had been quiet the whole time, says, "Damn, that's the hairiest twat I've ever seen on a woman." As this is pretty much the same reaction each of the three of us had the first time we saw this, we couldn't help but agree. And by the way, test passed.

Not that it's a pass-fail thing, unless the guy goes overboard to express revulsion for MTF's, like "it" boy from a couple of weeks ago did, but it does help to give Sissy some information about how a guy thinks about transsexuals.

So, here come the discussion questions:

Do you test potential boyfriends/girlfriends in some way?
Is it with or without their knowledge?
Do you think it's wrong to do this, dishonest, or is it just a good way of finding out about someone without revealing too much about yourself?

Gilda

01-30-2006, 07:25 PM	#1 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	Different for Girls: Do you test potential mates? It's Sunday afternoon, and we're having Sunday family day for the first time in about four or five months, and Sissy's boyfriend of the week is visiting for the meet the family session. Sissy likes this one a lot, and he passed the first test--he didn't bat an eye at Sissy living with her lesbian sister and her lover, or at the word marriage being used to describe us. Then again, when one of the lesbians looks like a cross between Grace Park and Tia Carrere, and she's not the more feminine one in the couple, it's an easy test for most guys to pass. So we're on to test #2: The movie test. A few weeks ago, Sissy's date made a point of repeatedly calling Calpernia Addams in Soldier's Girl "he" and evern worse, "it". It's dismaying to see that, but better than finding out later on. So we pull out a different test movie, Different for Girls a British movie about a post-op MTF who reconnects with an old school friends and the relationship they develop. It's one of the better movies about transsexuals, and nails a lot of the emotional stuff exactly. Late in the movie there's a full frontal nude scene in which the MTF, Kim, slowly strips for her now boyfriend. Upon seeing the full frontal nude shot, boyfriend of the week, who had been quiet the whole time, says, "Damn, that's the hairiest twat I've ever seen on a woman." As this is pretty much the same reaction each of the three of us had the first time we saw this, we couldn't help but agree. And by the way, test passed. Not that it's a pass-fail thing, unless the guy goes overboard to express revulsion for MTF's, like "it" boy from a couple of weeks ago did, but it does help to give Sissy some information about how a guy thinks about transsexuals. So, here come the discussion questions: Do you test potential boyfriends/girlfriends in some way? Is it with or without their knowledge? Do you think it's wrong to do this, dishonest, or is it just a good way of finding out about someone without revealing too much about yourself? Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert