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SuicideBlonde · 01-26-2006, 04:56 PM

How do you see yourself in the mirror when you look into it?
Its certainly easy to hone in on the imperfections while completely overlooking the more attractive aspects. I actually took down a large decorative mirror I had hanging in the dining room because I found myself looking at it and primping before I headed out the door. It drove me nuts! What I've found is that you need to make friends with the mirror, this is YOU this what you were given and there is a higher purpose to it all. The mirror gives a rather skewed view as to who you really are and the image you portray. So much about a person lies in their mannerisms, individual quirkiness and personality that beauty is merely icing on an already tastey cake. Any person of value will perceive you this way.

Why do you think the bar is set so incredibly high for women?
Since we've evolved from merely surviving the day to day, we've also had a lot more time to become more shallow and vain. While the media does affect the standard for beauty, women as whole, are more artful creatures who can be painted, primped, fluffed and trussed.

And can women really live up to this? (some women seem too and they seem so successful).
A lot it comes off falsely as an effortless act and thats part of the illusion.

Is anyone here actually living up to this image of the in control and perfectly styled professional women? (i'd like to know how! )
The irony of this is that you think that you aren't but you are.

How many of you are generally happy with the way you are present yourself phsyically, professionally?
I am super critical of myself and a perfectionist, so I often have trouble letting go of the things I can't tame and let it eat at me affecting my happiness. I look around me, at REAL, every day people and there's no one I want to be, no one I envy. My friends are all very thin (there's this whole anorexia thing going on in my peer group, if you're bigger than a size 4 you're fat and out of control. I weigh about 20-30 lbs more than my little friends, i have breasts and they have all starved themselves flat). I look and feel so much more attractive than I did in my early 20's and I'm also gained a lot of wisdom and knowledge along the way to add to my "beauty".

01-26-2006, 04:56 PM	#17 (permalink)
SuicideBlonde Upright	How do you see yourself in the mirror when you look into it? Its certainly easy to hone in on the imperfections while completely overlooking the more attractive aspects. I actually took down a large decorative mirror I had hanging in the dining room because I found myself looking at it and primping before I headed out the door. It drove me nuts! What I've found is that you need to make friends with the mirror, this is YOU this what you were given and there is a higher purpose to it all. The mirror gives a rather skewed view as to who you really are and the image you portray. So much about a person lies in their mannerisms, individual quirkiness and personality that beauty is merely icing on an already tastey cake. Any person of value will perceive you this way. Why do you think the bar is set so incredibly high for women? Since we've evolved from merely surviving the day to day, we've also had a lot more time to become more shallow and vain. While the media does affect the standard for beauty, women as whole, are more artful creatures who can be painted, primped, fluffed and trussed. And can women really live up to this? (some women seem too and they seem so successful). A lot it comes off falsely as an effortless act and thats part of the illusion. Is anyone here actually living up to this image of the in control and perfectly styled professional women? (i'd like to know how! ) The irony of this is that you think that you aren't but you are. How many of you are generally happy with the way you are present yourself phsyically, professionally? I am super critical of myself and a perfectionist, so I often have trouble letting go of the things I can't tame and let it eat at me affecting my happiness. I look around me, at REAL, every day people and there's no one I want to be, no one I envy. My friends are all very thin (there's this whole anorexia thing going on in my peer group, if you're bigger than a size 4 you're fat and out of control. I weigh about 20-30 lbs more than my little friends, i have breasts and they have all starved themselves flat). I look and feel so much more attractive than I did in my early 20's and I'm also gained a lot of wisdom and knowledge along the way to add to my "beauty". Last edited by SuicideBlonde; 01-26-2006 at 05:01 PM..