My dear ladies,
Perfectionism is screaming at me from all venues lately... i'm supposed to be the perfect professional, have a perfect body (which means all my ribs should show and i should not eat more than rice cakes/sarcastic), the perfect hair, always have my makeup done, always dress nicely or i'm 'giving up on myself...'
I'm getting a lot of these kind of 'be perfect' messages from people, media and even my boss--who told me last week i look much better with makeup on and should consider wearing more...
keep in mind, me wearing makeup has nothing to do with my job...
I'm not working with the public or a sales rep. I'm a respite care provider.
I've lost some weight in the past year and everyone comments... 'oh, you look so much Better...' gee thanks, did i look like such a bum before? There is the implied truth that i wasn't okay the way i was... and if i lose more weight... i'm 5'5" and 134lbs... will i be percieved as 'even better' than i am now?
I feel like since i graduated college, i'm starting to crumple under the pressure of what's expected of me as a 'woman out in the world now... no longer a student'
Questions for you:
How do you see yourself in the mirror when you look into it?
Why do you think the bar is set so incredibly high for women?
And can women really live up to this? (some women seem too and they seem so successful)
Is anyone here actually living up to this image of the in control and perfectly styled professional women? (i'd like to know how! )
How many of you are generally happy with the way you are present yourself phsyically, professionally?
sweetpea