It's funny.. back in the days i worked in retail -- it was expected that as store managers we come to work properly dressed and looking presentable.. that worked for about 2 weeks - when foot pain won out - (standing on your feet on a concrete mall floor for 12 hours a day - was a bad thing) The dress code at that point became perfect dressed from head to ankles...
my self image sucks - -Sadly I have a mirror so there's no way around it.. .I'm also not a girlie girl and makeup and shoe fetishes aren't part of my genetic code... However, if I want to feel more feminine (and in turn a little better about myself) then a dab of perfume... or earrings will do the trick... more times than not - the fabric of what i am wearing will also help -- silkier more drapey fabrics also make me feel better...
Advice i was given years ago-- if you want to really feel good about yourself - and give yourself an edge - then get yourself undies that make you feel sexy and confident... doesn't matter if they are hanes her way or a silk set from la perla - but they are your special undies that make you feel like you can do anything - people will notice a change in you, but won't know what it is - and unless you show 'em your undies.. they won't know what's up...