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Originally Posted by Gilda
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Personally, I don't think it's possible to be too safe or too comfortable. That feeling of safety and comfort is exactly what I'm looking for right now.
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I don't get this. There's no risk involved here, at least not for me. I trust Grace absolutely, and I trust Sissy not to intentionally hurt me. I say intentionall, because I know she definitely will hurt me. She grows more independent by the day, she's actually reached the point where I she doesn't need me any more. Some day she'll get married or go to med school and she'll leave, and because I'm so emotionally invested in her as a person, that's going to hurt me, event though it's exactly what I want for her, to not need me any more. Damn, that makes no sense.
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To me, the greatest risks I take are emotional risks. I have a hard time trusting others and feel very uncomfortable if I have to depend on another. Most of these people have never given me any reason to doubt, but being "safe and comfortable" to me would mean never opening up to another person so they can't hurt me if I relied on their help. Overcoming that fear is a sense of pride and joy, as well as realizing I can depend on these people.
Your trust is a wonderful thing, and I think it's great that you have enough emotional strength to completely trust another. That there is such a huge gap that you can't make sense of my statement shows how strong you are.
As for taking risks, of course you need to figure out what the risk is, how big it is, and the chance of failure, while weighing it against the potential benefit you might get if you succeed. Sometimes just making the decision to risk yourself is the success. But not taking any risks at all means you stay where you are, never growing or changing.