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Originally Posted by skier
In my life I now seek out things that give me pleasure, excitement, danger, challenge me, or make me afraid. They have value- whether economic, emotional, or for my inner self. I don't believe in the goal of safety- if I stay somewhere safe and comfortable I will stagnate.
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Good for you, and I mean that sincerely. I'm glad to hear from those for whom this works.
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Once you stop taking risks you lose out on potential benefit.
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But you also eliminate the consequences. It's a balance of potential benefit and potential harm. If the potential for harm is greater than the potential for benefit, it makes sense, to me anyway, to not take the risk.
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It doesn't mean I don't see the value in safety or comfort, just that it should be moderated.
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Again, good for you. If that's what brings you joy, go for it.
Personally, I don't think it's possible to be too safe or too comfortable. That feeling of safety and comfort is exactly what I'm looking for right now.
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Protect the ones you love. Feel the comfort and safety of those you can trust; and also risk yourself by trusting them.
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I don't get this. There's no risk involved here, at least not for me. I trust Grace absolutely, and I trust Sissy not to intentionally hurt me. I say intentionall, because I know she definitely will hurt me. She grows more independent by the day, she's actually reached the point where I she doesn't need me any more. Some day she'll get married or go to med school and she'll leave, and because I'm so emotionally invested in her as a person, that's going to hurt me, event though it's exactly what I want for her, to not need me any more. Damn, that makes no sense.
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The best thing I believe I can do in my life is to take risks, to keep moving forward. Learn new things, and live up to the principles I believe in. To better my life, and the lives of those around me, that is the "happiness" I have found.
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Glad to hear it. I'm not one of those for whom taking risks is a source of satisfaction, but for those for whom it is, I applaud you.
Gilda