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Originally Posted by Prince
snip... she always makes a point of making fun of the contents of the mags...snip
She's always had her share of insecurity issues about her looks and weight, as have I about mine.
snip... au contraire, she would laugh her ass off on how ridiculous it all looks. I like to look. She doesn't get off on the visual.
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This sounds just like my response to porn before I was assured of my husbands enjoyment of my body. I felt in competition, jealous even, and my reaction was to belittle the skinny bodies that were younger, thinner, and more lithe than mine. He was very attentive to reassure me of my attractiveness to him. Once I got past that I was able to enjoy it and even get off while looking at it with hubby. Until I got past it I would get off in secret after looking at it.
Hubby hid it from me for a little bit. I was suspicious and caught him one with it on his computer. It was then that we started looking at it together. He doesn't hide it from me now. We just try to hide it from our kid.
I was concerned at first when I found it. Almost more concerned BECAUSE he was hiding it. When I told him that I felt like I was in competition with those women that he was looking at he calmed my fears by explaining how he felt about it. He told me that NOTHING could beat the real thing and that he LOVED me while he just enjoyed looking at the pictures of annonymous women.
The hiding will probably be more of a problem than the looking. Ask her how she feels about porn. Tell her that you like to see porn but that she's the real thing.