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Originally Posted by Valentina
Prince, are you pretty sure that she's so uptight that she'll be shocked or disapproving?
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Shocked, no. Disapproving? To a degree. I'm 96% sure she wouldn't tell me to get rid of my porn, but she wouldn't exactly approve of it. I subscribe to Stuff and Maxim, and she is alright with it, but I can tell that the fact that I enjoy these magazines bugs her at least marginally, as she always makes a point of making fun of the contents of the mags. I've asked her before if she is alright with me getting these mags and she said "yeah, it's not like they're Playboy or something". To me, Playboy isn't exactly hardcore.
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Are you afraid she'll have jealousy issues re: you looking at/desiring other women? Is it standard porn or does it involve fetishes that you think might freak her out? Do you know anything about her fantasy life?
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I don't know about fetishes, but I prefer porn that features young adult females, around the 18-20 range. You know, cheerleader stuff. These girls are thin, perky, etc. She's not the cheerleader type, but she is the most gorgeous woman to me. However, underneath women never seem to fully grasp this. She's always had her share of insecurity issues about her looks and weight, as have I about mine. As for her fantasy life, I can't say I know much about it. According to her, she doesn't fantasize as such, mostly dreams as she sleeps. She will tell me about any erotic dreams she's had. Her views regarding sex are more conservative than mine.
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I just find it hard to fathom that people enter into the lifelong commitment of marriage when they haven't discussed something as basic as what kind of stuff gets them hot and what images they get off on...
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She never got into porn. She never watched porn out of her own accord. I was her first partner, and boyfriend. There wasn't a whole lot, from her side, according to her, to share. I am at a loss as to what sharing sexual fantasies with her in detail would benefit me, if those fantasies are more likely to upset her than not. I am all for being as open as possible in a relationship, but some things are, at times, best kept to oneself. Or am I totally wrong about this as well?
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Have you ever broached the subject? Do you know her feelings on porn in general? Need more info before I can advise...
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Yeah. She doesn't care for porn. According to her she doesn't get anything out of it. The few times I've subjected her to a clip I've had on the computer, she hasn't remarked at all at anything she found the least bit arousing; au contraire, she would laugh her ass off on how ridiculous it all looks. I like to look. She doesn't get off on the visual.