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Originally Posted by Valentina
Bingo.
Prince, are you pretty sure that she's so uptight that she'll be shocked or disapproving? Are you afraid she'll have jealousy issues re: you looking at/desiring other women? Is it standard porn or does it involve fetishes that you think might freak her out? Do you know anything about her fantasy life?
I just find it hard to fathom that people enter into the lifelong commitment of marriage when they haven't discussed something as basic as what kind of stuff gets them hot and what images they get off on...that's just me, though. I've used porn since I was a kid--but then, I doubt that any guy who'd known me in the Biblical sense would think for a moment that I was the kind of girl from whom he'd have to hide his porn. I'm assuming you have some reason for thinking that your wife wouldn't appreciate your little stash--or are you just working from some assumption that women (or maybe "nice girls" like your wife) don't get off on porn?
Have you ever broached the subject? Do you know her feelings on porn in general? Need more info before I can advise...
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You worded this so wonderfully. Thank you for adding your insight.
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