Valentina

And I might suggest looking for someone who's about 35

Kidding...but you know what they say about a woman's sexual peak. (And being in my mid-thirties myself, I'm beginning to see why they say that...)

Seriously, you're both extremely young, just starting out sexually. It seems that she's just not ready to open up and explore her sexuality with you (and it's possible that she never will be--some people never lose their sexual inhibitions, or just naturally/chemically have a low sex drive.) She clearly wants to be with someone who respects her boundaries at this point in her life.

I guess the pertinent question is this: Is she worth waiting for? Is she worth the time, effort, and patience that might be required to get her to the point where she becomes comfortable exploring her sexuality--preferably with you as her co-pilot? It's a question only you can answer. It's not an easy question, either, since the payoff is far from guaranteed.

I might suggest, if you think she's worth it, giving it a little more time, and working on your own technique. (Hey, you're young yourself and probably don't know everything there is to know...) I've always felt goofy about getting "sex tips" from books (Like, "honey, if you need a book...don't bother!") But my opinion on that is changing...partly because I've recently started seeing an older guy who has clearly put a lot of effort into perfecting his techniques, and...Wow! Turns out he's gained his truly impressive knowledge and abilities from a variety of sources, including books....(And, of course, sleeping with thirtysomething women when he was just a young whippersnapper. )

Anyway, tread carefully...see if you can't gently coax her to tell you something about her fantasies, what she likes best physically. (Do you have any idea what she does like best physically, so far? Is she responsive when you fool around? If you know of something that seems to get her really hot, try a session where you tell her that no matter what, you're not going to move beyond that...that's all she's getting, even if she begs you for more...See, that's kinda hot, and it'll also make her feel safe in a way that she might not normally feel safe--it sounds like she's always a little nervous, waiting for you to try and push her farther than she wants to go...)

See if she won't read some of those sex books with you--just as a goof, of course....

If you have any success with getting her to open up in this fashion, then it might be worth more effort...But then again, some people just aren't very sexual in general. It may be that she doesn't really fantasize--or doesn't even masturbate (My current man's ex was like that--why do you guys always end up marrying those women??? I just don't get it...But I digress.) You and she are both so young that it's hard to tell if this is just her personality, or a lack of experience and/or chemistry between you...

Based on my own experience, though, youth doesn't necessarily equal sexual inhibition. I started in my early teens, and was really open and experimental right away. Some people are just born to fuck like rabbits and love it...If you're one of those people, then I might suggest that you'd be better off finding a like-minded partner.

I will say this, though: If sex is important to you, and you're willing to put in some effort, and are open to learning new things and pushing boundaries a little...It only gets better.