Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community - View Single Post

Brilliant Idiot · 01-19-2006, 09:41 PM

Especially to dksuddeth,

OK - let's extend Tachion's examples...

There are obviously places where even you, dksuddeth, do not carry a gun. Not in the shower. Perhaps not at the dinner table. I'm assuming it's not the first thing on your mind when you're making love. Are there times or places where you don't carry a gun because you feel comfortable and safe. Like when you're having tea in your living room with your mother. Or maybe, as a child you felt safe snuggled into bed.

But the fact is, even during these occasions, you are as safe or as much at risk as you are when you're carrying the gun. The safety factor hasn't changed. Just your feeling of being safe.

The fact is, the feeling of being safe is inside you. You can control and cultivate that sense of security. The key is to notice what you think about and change that. Notice what you do that heightens your feeling of being unsafe, and change those actions. You're carrying a gun because you feel unsafe and when you carry the gun, you are thinking about how unsafe you are. Change that. Change any habits that contribute to your mental chatter about how unsafe you are.

It's not about changing how safe you actually are. That never changes. And I'll go so far as to say you don't know how safe you really are or how safe you really aren't. That's a big picture you will never see.

What you can do is change your view of your world. That's all you ever have. And, the dinner table analogy I gave above, shows that if you change your view, you change your world.

So work on how you feel about you life. Work on what you focus on. Work on what is going on in your head.

Americans live in the most armed country on the planet. They are well policed with a highly organized force that is among the least corrupt in the world, even though, yes, sometimes things get past even the American police system. If you still feel unsafe under those circumstances, you need to work on your feelings of safety.

Increasing your feeling of safety is not going to be accomplished by adding more arms. You can't possible arm yourself enough. You will always be able to imagine arming yourself more. You can't win that internal arms race.

So call a truce and start thinking about something that will make your life matter.

01-19-2006, 09:41 PM	#129 (permalink)
Brilliant Idiot Tilted	Especially to dksuddeth, OK - let's extend Tachion's examples... There are obviously places where even you, dksuddeth, do not carry a gun. Not in the shower. Perhaps not at the dinner table. I'm assuming it's not the first thing on your mind when you're making love. Are there times or places where you don't carry a gun because you feel comfortable and safe. Like when you're having tea in your living room with your mother. Or maybe, as a child you felt safe snuggled into bed. But the fact is, even during these occasions, you are as safe or as much at risk as you are when you're carrying the gun. The safety factor hasn't changed. Just your feeling of being safe. The fact is, the feeling of being safe is inside you. You can control and cultivate that sense of security. The key is to notice what you think about and change that. Notice what you do that heightens your feeling of being unsafe, and change those actions. You're carrying a gun because you feel unsafe and when you carry the gun, you are thinking about how unsafe you are. Change that. Change any habits that contribute to your mental chatter about how unsafe you are. It's not about changing how safe you actually are. That never changes. And I'll go so far as to say you don't know how safe you really are or how safe you really aren't. That's a big picture you will never see. What you can do is change your view of your world. That's all you ever have. And, the dinner table analogy I gave above, shows that if you change your view, you change your world. So work on how you feel about you life. Work on what you focus on. Work on what is going on in your head. Americans live in the most armed country on the planet. They are well policed with a highly organized force that is among the least corrupt in the world, even though, yes, sometimes things get past even the American police system. If you still feel unsafe under those circumstances, you need to work on your feelings of safety. Increasing your feeling of safety is not going to be accomplished by adding more arms. You can't possible arm yourself enough. You will always be able to imagine arming yourself more. You can't win that internal arms race. So call a truce and start thinking about something that will make your life matter.