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Originally Posted by ratbastid
What makes me happy now is my ongoing choice to be happy, in every circumstance, no matter what's happening to me. Sometimes I do well at that, and sometimes I don't, but when I don't, I can always look and find where I'm choosing something other than happiness.
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Choice is also a factor to being happy. My step-daughter is a very unhappy soul. At 12, she decided that the world was a horrid place and went toward the Goth trend. Now at 15, she is still unhappy and unimpressed by everything. She is slowly getting better with therapy and talks from us. One thing that we told her is that she chooses to be happy or unhappy. It's easier to choose to be unhappy because that is the 'human condition' as some else mentioned. You rarely see 'happy' people around. Plus there is a market for unhappy people...aka Happy Pills.
Choosing to be happy is hard to teach yourself, but it can be done. Some days, I choose to be grumpy and others I choose to be happy. It takes just as much energy to be unhappy as happy, but the unhappy mood fits the "I'm tired and miserable" better than the happy state. When I choose to be happy and get tired I go to sleep. I don't like being unhappy and sleep is my escape.
And for the people who think they can run away from their unhappiness, I will make reference to Breakfast at Tiffany's. You can go whereever you want, but you'll always end up with yourself. My plug for: Happiness comes from within. Be happy with yourself, your choices, and you will eventually be content, which imo is the happiness that is being discussed in this thread.