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Old 01-16-2006, 09:39 AM   #32 (permalink)
rlynnm
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Originally Posted by Sultana
I agree that humans, for some reason, continue to be humans even after getting married...
And if only single guys got porn the industry would take a major hit, LOL.

But I can see a little how rlynnm could question his motivations for *hiding* it. It's a reasonable thing to question, especially since the OP has been married for a while and is still hiding it.

Yes, I can see how this could be/become a problem if the OP is dedicated to having his porn, and the wife saying, "Oh no you don't!", but I guess you really gotta consider if you want to have a life long secret, nagging at the corner of your mind for years, or have the strength to say "Hey, this is want I want to do..." (again, depending on the OP's strength of feelings on the matter).

I do think it's uncool to pre-judge the wife too, you never know (and I have to say I have been guilty of this myself). She may not jump into it enthusiastically, but if you are gentle with her introduction to it (the topic *and* the subject matter), you just might open up avenues you didn't think possible.
And yes, you might get a resounding NO. You may be pressured to give up your collection. Are you willing to consider doing that?

At least she'll likely be relieved you aren't into scat or big hairy Swedes (I think that's what you said) doing whatever...
Glad you at least see the point I've been trying to make, even a little bit.

The most bothersome aspect of the matter alltogether is the secretiveness and imposed assumptions....

I've got nothing against porn per se, in fact, in times where I wasn't sexually/emotionally involved with someone it has helped..However, when I am in a relationship, I almost automatically direct all that sexual energy to my partner.. Perhaps I'm taking the issue to a personal perspective....
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