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Originally Posted by Gilda
I still don't think I buy the idea that it's just a matter of choosing happiness, but I do like seeing that there are people who have been able to do so. It gives me hope that maybe I'll be able to find whatever it is that I'm missing that'll bring me to that place.
Gilda
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I don't buy that either. I think it takes an honest evaluation of why happiness is eluding a person.
In many cases it's easier to wonder why happiness hasn't set in as a permanent state of being rather than confront real reasons why. Frequently, it has to do with unresolved relationships. Jumping Jesus has a good example with his parents. By his forgiveness, he allows himself to get on with his life and yet maintain distance with his parents. I think to truly attain a level of contentedness, we have to takes those things which are hurtful and upsetting and just let them be. Don't let them plague your mind.
It seems like all the frustration and anger we feel have to do with clutching those things which harm so tight that we can't see the damage. Once we realize that those people and situations are what they are, and we can't change that, but we can stop it from affecting us by accepting it as such.