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Happiness is a short-lived emotion. In order to feel happy with relative frequency, I find that I have to do a couple of things: first, I find something accessible about life that I truly appreciate (sitting outside on my porch is one thing), and then I just stay there. If you have things in your life that bring you happiness but they are there all the time, you won't feel happy from them anymore because you will take them for granted. In order to gain happiness from something, you must stop everything and take notice, or re-take notice.
The easiest way to be happy the most often is to erase desire. I don't mean to stop your sex drive, or to not think that it might be nice to own a certain car, but not to become entrapped by anything. If you desire to be happy, it will be difficult (perhaps impossible) to attain, because the desire itself can invoke frustration or other conflicting emotions. I try to avoid expectations, and if I have them, to accept whatever results I encounter. Pay more attention to things that you like about a situation than those you don't like.
I'm sure I was as helpful as a granite parachute, but if I wasn't being too vague or philosophical, then I am glad I could help.
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"Few people are capable of expressing with equanimity opinions which differ from the prejudices of their social environment. Most people are even incapable of forming such opinions." - Albert Einstein
"Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something." - Plato
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