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worried_one · 05-23-2003, 03:47 PM

I just wanted to give everybody an update on what has happened:

I've decided to move on with my life. Until last night (more on that later) I hadn't spoken to her in 2 weeks. In that period of time I have gone out on 3 dates with 3 different girls. My sense of self-worth has improved to a degree where I don't worry about not being able to find another woman to love again. No, I am not ready for a relationship, but I am ready to start dating...to get out...to have a little fun.

I still think about her quite a bit, but I was growing stronger and stronger and thinking about her less and less. Thinking about her being with another man no longer upsets me so much.

Well...she called me last night. I told her that I would contact her when I was ready to talk to her and she agreed to not call me to give me healing time. But she broke the agreement. She definitely sounded different on the phone. She told me that she had been very depressed the past few weeks. She told me that her grandmother was going to relieve her of her debt problems and that she saw that her life would hopefully be able to get turned around. She mentioned that she still thought the two of us would never be able to work out, but she missed me a great deal and had a hard time coping with the fact that we invested so much into a relationship that didn't work. She had heard that I was dating other girls now. I confirmed that and told her I was having a good time meeting new people. We talked about her son and how he has asked to talk to me but she doesn't know how to explain to him that we're broken up. Then she asked me if I had kissed any of the girls I had dated. I told her I had not, but had been close to doing so. She mentioned that I "sounded different", more distant. (That was the effect I was going for). She also revealed that a few weeks back, after hearing how I was somewhat suicidal, she stole the bullets out of my gun so I couldn't shoot myself.

This morning I was very sad and made the mistake of calling her. I started to open up my heart a little bit for her, I revealed that I was going to date other girls and get on with my life but that I still loved her and cared for her. It was an awkward conversation, this time I sounded weak and she sounded a bit stronger.

Anyway....I just want to stop talking to her again and focus on dating these girls again. Re-reading this thread has convinced me again that she is young, confused, and not the right girl for me.

Thank you, everybody, so...SO much for your support through this. This thread has been an incredible help for me over the past couple of weeks.

05-23-2003, 03:47 PM	#44 (permalink)
worried_one Upright	I just wanted to give everybody an update on what has happened: I've decided to move on with my life. Until last night (more on that later) I hadn't spoken to her in 2 weeks. In that period of time I have gone out on 3 dates with 3 different girls. My sense of self-worth has improved to a degree where I don't worry about not being able to find another woman to love again. No, I am not ready for a relationship, but I am ready to start dating...to get out...to have a little fun. I still think about her quite a bit, but I was growing stronger and stronger and thinking about her less and less. Thinking about her being with another man no longer upsets me so much. Well...she called me last night. I told her that I would contact her when I was ready to talk to her and she agreed to not call me to give me healing time. But she broke the agreement. She definitely sounded different on the phone. She told me that she had been very depressed the past few weeks. She told me that her grandmother was going to relieve her of her debt problems and that she saw that her life would hopefully be able to get turned around. She mentioned that she still thought the two of us would never be able to work out, but she missed me a great deal and had a hard time coping with the fact that we invested so much into a relationship that didn't work. She had heard that I was dating other girls now. I confirmed that and told her I was having a good time meeting new people. We talked about her son and how he has asked to talk to me but she doesn't know how to explain to him that we're broken up. Then she asked me if I had kissed any of the girls I had dated. I told her I had not, but had been close to doing so. She mentioned that I "sounded different", more distant. (That was the effect I was going for). She also revealed that a few weeks back, after hearing how I was somewhat suicidal, she stole the bullets out of my gun so I couldn't shoot myself. This morning I was very sad and made the mistake of calling her. I started to open up my heart a little bit for her, I revealed that I was going to date other girls and get on with my life but that I still loved her and cared for her. It was an awkward conversation, this time I sounded weak and she sounded a bit stronger. Anyway....I just want to stop talking to her again and focus on dating these girls again. Re-reading this thread has convinced me again that she is young, confused, and not the right girl for me. Thank you, everybody, so...SO much for your support through this. This thread has been an incredible help for me over the past couple of weeks.