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Originally Posted by Roxyinnit
Trust me restraining what they can and cannot wear is a mistake. My parents did this and i was pregnant at fifteen.
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This statement makes a direct implication that the reason you got pregnant at fifteen was ultimately due to the prohibitions placed upon you as you were young.
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Originally Posted by Roxyinnit
Firstly my daughter is almost fourteen. I agree that young mothers aren't all from backgrounds like mine, but from my own experience i know that if they want to have sex they will regardless of wether they have a thong.
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You're right, they will have sex regardless, but why give them the ok to sexualize themselves at such a young age. Post 18, they'd have all the time in the world to dress with as little or as much clothing as they want --my daughter, at least up until legal emancipation, is still a child, and that's how she will be seen as. God forbid there be some 45 year old pervert peering at my 12 year old's behind because of the little thong she purposely allows to peek out. I'm sorry, that makes me a little sick to the stomach. I'd like to safeguard her from that as long as I can.
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Originally Posted by Roxyinnit
She doesn't take advantage of me but my personal choice is to let her spend her money on whatever she wants (within reason).
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I would assume that this money that you speak of is hers comes from the allowance that you provide for her? I would doubt that 13 or 14 year olds are allowed to take part in the labor field just yet. And if she spent 'her' money on thongs, bustiers and such, would you call her inappropriate attire within reason?
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Originally Posted by Roxyinnit
If my daughter wanted to have sex i would prefer her to come to me for birth control rather thean knowing i would say no and therefor not using any. Also, i don't think i was blaming my family situation i was just trying to show it doesn't make it better.
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Being a strict parent and not allowing them to wear thongs at 12 does not mean you can not have open lines of communication with your children. I believe things exist and can be discussed when the time is right. Many parents can speak to their children about 'growing up' and what that all entails without actually having to perpetuate them doing so too soon. If you need to be loosey goosey to develop an honest open relationship with your children, well haven't they arleady taken advantage of you?
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Originally Posted by Roxyinnit
As you don't know my daughter i don't think you can comment on whether she is old enough to have thongs, sex and wear revealing clothing. More to the point i don't think you can comment on whether having over strict parents made you want to have sex as everyone is different which is how i see my daughter. I don't see her as an immature thirteen year old as that isnt what she is everyones child is different and i think its up to the individual parent what they let there child wear. What i had a problem with was the fact that you were suggesting that any teenager who went out in thongs and revealking clothing was ultimately a slut.
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No comment was made to state that YOUR daughter per se is too old or too young to wear them. The concept being put out goes a bit further than just wearing thongs themselves. It lies under the notion that too many children are objectifying themselves too soon. I didn't make a comment on a parental prohibition as contributing to promiscuity. You did. Note above statement. It is up to the individual parent what their child wears and no one is forcing you to do any different than you are doing now, but different viewpoints are being offerred on the subject and the point of this whole thread is the discussion of young children essentially dressing themselves as adults. Obviously, disagreements will ensue and this is where we are at this point.
Lastly I did not say that any teenager who wore thongs would be considered a slut and I would appreciate if you did not put words in my mouth. Women have the rest of their lives to defend how they dress for the rest of their lives--why jump start that when they are nowhere near ready to deal with the stares, comments and possible advances???? Women should be able to dress how they want without repurcussion, but unfortunately it does not always happen that way. Mind you I said women, NOT children.