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Originally Posted by frogza
or she could be making an empathy decision, ie. if she wanted a Pepsi it would be a cherry pepsi.
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That's not empathy, that's a decision marked by self-centeredness. Applying one's own wants and needs to another,
in spite of being told otherwise, stems from a way of thinking in which everyone is like you and you know best. And while most women are socialized to be nurterers, this has nothing to do with her behavior. Nurturing inherently involves being concerned for the happiness of another. Borla has
repeatedly expressed unhappiness with this behavior. It's not nurturing, it's simply not listening. At all.
And I don't think this thread makes it seem like Borla is lazy and doesn't do any work. I could easily list off a ton of things onodrim has done for me, and she could list off a ton of things I have done for her. If I were making a thread complaining about the way in which onodrim doesn't listen when she does things for me, why would I have any reason to list off the things I have done for her? It doesn't add anything to the discussion. So, I don't think it's fair to assume based on the representations here that Borla isn't also doing things for himself and doing things for his wife.
EDIT: BTW, Borla, I hope you're not being too upset by my comments regarding your wife. I'm sure she's a wonderful person otherwise. I just couldn't possibly bear something like this in any of my relationships and so that comes out in expressing my opinion on the matter.