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Originally Posted by soma
Dear oh wise TFP,
You were right. Thanks.
We went out on a date the other night. It was good, but I was reserved as hell! I hate it. I couldn't put my arm around her, I didn't even hold hands or initiate anything. I was damn disappointed in myself and I'm sure she was too. Ergh. How do I man up and quit acting like a god damn 12 year old. 
I know how important being comfortable with touch is, but ... damn. Any tips on initiating this sort of thing. I have soooo much hesitation but I can't quite figure out what's holding me back. I think part of it is that I don't know what is appropriate when. Like, if we're just walking around together, hold hands, or arm around the shoulder. I need help. Last night by the way was the first real date in my life. I'm 20. I need some serious help. |
Other than the fact that I'm two years older than you, you sound like me. I'me blown at least three clear attempts by friends trying to get together with me because I was too chickenshit to make a move. Stop acting like me before I hunt you down and smack the shit out of you for doing the same stupid shit I do. You're never going to get out of the plane if you're sitting there worriying that your parachute won't open.
Now if I can just figure out how to practice what I preach, I'll be set.