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Originally Posted by ratbastid
Ah! Well, that highlights another problem that was there with the pepsi example, but is freaking GLARING in the Florida example.
Why is she the one doing all the planning? Why is she the one fetching all the pepsis? If you were involved, you'd know her thinking at all steps, and you could either reign her in, or participate with her in changing the plan, rather than just being shanghaied by the outcome. Maybe she's letting you know something here?
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In MOST decisions, we plan together. In that case the problem is avoided. However, as in practically any relationship, there are certain things that we each plan, arrange, or do on our own that effect us both. Read the post 7-8 posts up about the late night snack. I thought it was very clear what was being fixed. She was literally 20' away, so she could've easily just asked me if I preferred what she was thinking of making instead. For some reason she assumed I would think it was better, even though I'd specifically asked for something else, and even though it'd have been very simple to just ask.
