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SecretMethod70 · 01-04-2006, 05:57 AM

That type of behavior is seriously insufferable. Honestly, I don't think I could even be friends with someone like that let alone intimately involved. If she thinks you might want a cherry pepsi instead of pepsi, or these other ingredients added to your food, she should ASK you. That's what onodrim, any of my friends, or I would do. Simply assuming you want something other than what you said is flat out inconsiderate and rude.

As for how to address the situation, based on the fact you say you've told her this many many times it seems like it's simply not going to change (which, by the way, is also extremely rude - it's not like it's difficult to simply get exactly what you asked for instead of changing it around and adding things now that you've expressed that desire). So, I'd either accept that you're never going to get what you ask for and live with the inconsiderate behavior, or stop asking her or letting her do things for you in the first place.

I really just can't even begin to understand it...that's among the rudest behavior I can even imagine IMO and I don't believe I know a single person who behaves in such a manner. As for being a "female" thing - that's either not true or it must be generational, because none of my female friends act that way (I'm in my early 20's). Trying to do something nice is one thing. Ignoring what you actually requested and doing something very different is entirely another, especially when you've also pointed out the problem multiple times.

/5c

01-04-2006, 05:57 AM	#17 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	That type of behavior is seriously insufferable. Honestly, I don't think I could even be friends with someone like that let alone intimately involved. If she thinks you might want a cherry pepsi instead of pepsi, or these other ingredients added to your food, she should ASK you. That's what onodrim, any of my friends, or I would do. Simply assuming you want something other than what you said is flat out inconsiderate and rude. As for how to address the situation, based on the fact you say you've told her this many many times it seems like it's simply not going to change (which, by the way, is also extremely rude - it's not like it's difficult to simply get exactly what you asked for instead of changing it around and adding things now that you've expressed that desire). So, I'd either accept that you're never going to get what you ask for and live with the inconsiderate behavior, or stop asking her or letting her do things for you in the first place. I really just can't even begin to understand it...that's among the rudest behavior I can even imagine IMO and I don't believe I know a single person who behaves in such a manner. As for being a "female" thing - that's either not true or it must be generational, because none of my female friends act that way (I'm in my early 20's). Trying to do something nice is one thing. Ignoring what you actually requested and doing something very different is entirely another, especially when you've also pointed out the problem multiple times. /5c __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling Last edited by SecretMethod70; 01-04-2006 at 05:59 AM..