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Unfortunately, time and time again has proven that drinking is very important to her - "a good time" has on several occasions come before our relationship.
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I can't make you take my advice, nor can I make you take the advice of all the people on this forum.
You say you love this girl... but does this girl love you? She is letting something get in the way of your relationship, and has been letting it get in the way for a very long time (I'm assuming you guys are at least 21, and if you've been dating since HS... that's at least three years). She is not respectful of your opnions, and is choosing to ignore your input into the relationship. Got that? If you love someone, you listen to what they say. You have patiently listened to her, suggested things to her, shared yourself with her, but for years all you've gotten back is "I like to drink, I'm not going to change, deal with it." That is a very disrespectful way to be towards a serious partner.
Is this the first serious girlfriend you've ever had? Have you ever been "in love" before you started dating this girl? Are you continuing to date her because it's comfortable? Have you dated her exclusively throughout your relationship with her? It seems like you two are so comfortable with each other that you are being with each other simply because you can, and not because you love each other. I don't know what your relationship is like when she's not drinking... but this drinking thing is HANGING OVER YOUR HEAD the entire time, like a guillotine ready to drop.
Your girlfriend has a problem. However, it's not just drinking. She's disrespectful to you and your wishes within the context of your relationship. Ask yourself- would you like to marry her knowing that she's going to have this same sort of behavior for the rest of your lives? Would you want to spend the rest of your life with her if this issue would go unresolved? YOU can only do so much, Jessieboy. At some point, she's going to have to start putting effort into your relationship. Good relationships require constant input and respect from ALL people involved.
She's damaging herself AND you. Your relationship has some major issues, along with the fact your girlfriend is acting like an immature sot every time she gets near a bar. You can do one of three things:
1) Don't do anything. Keep babysitting her when she goes out and letting her cry on your shoulder for the next fifty years.
2) Break up with her, distance yourself as much as possible from her. Find a nice girl to date, one that doesn't act like an extra from a Girls Gone Wild video.
3) Sit down, talk to her, tell her everything you've told us. If she refuses to listen, and you decide you care enough about her to save the relationship, drag her kicking and screaming to counseling. Call her parents, her friends, everyone she's ever known and get them on the bandwagon to help her. I don't think she's just being "young and enjoying both her youth and her body." She can't be enjoying it that much if she doesn't remember it.