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Jesseboy, you could have described me to a tee. I have made many drunken mistakes in the past. I would feel very embarrassed the next morning and swear never again. But the next weekend there I was out with a friend or JJ making a fool of myself again. It took awhile (12 years) for me to learn to control my drinking and once in awhile I'll still slip, especially if drinking a new drink. However, you will not be able to change her. She will have to want to make the change herself. It may be, like in my case, that something bad will happen that will 'scare' her to her senses. Or it may be just as Secretmethod said a maturity thing that she will grow out of.
Blackouts are very serious and a sign of alcoholism. I've never had those, but I know many people who have and most of those people have drinking problems. She should do some research and look into her family past. Alcoholism is genetic, which is another reason I have to be very careful about drinking.
As for the clothes, that's just a non-issue. The alcohol lowers her inhibitions, the clothes aid to that, but are not the factor. I used to think that clothes made a difference. While they can make people look at you in a slightly different way, it doesn't matter if she's wearing a bulky sweater or a tank, if she's pretty and flirtatious, the guys will be attracted. Of course, that is my experience and I may be off-base here...I'm not a guy obviously.
My advice is to keep communication open. Let her know what bothers you and why you are concerned. Understand that it takes time and she may not be willing to change. Then you have to decide what you will accept and go from there.
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