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Generally speaking, she's the one who says whether or not you cross the friend line. The one who wants LESS in a relationship is the one in control, always and forever. So unless you're willing to play the losing end of a control game with her, you've got to back off a little. You've got to get some control over your feelings for her.
I've done this myself about girls in the past. You want to know my trick? Okay, here it is. You know how you think about her when you masturbate? Admit it, you know you do. So here's what you've got to do: every time you start thinking about her that way, stop yourself and think about someone or something else. Before long--it'll start in a matter of days, and by a couple weeks into doing this you'll see a real difference--you won't have the horny geekboy response to her anymore. You'll be able to see and hear clearly when you're around her, without your hormones and desires and expectations clouding your perceptions. You'll naturally back off her a little bit.
You know how you catch a puppy who's gotten off his leash? Chasing the puppy won't work, he'll just start playing a "you can't catch me" game. Instead, you sit down quietly and let the puppy come to you. But sitting there waiting for the right moment to lunge at the puppy won't work either--he's faster than you, and he can always get away. You have to actually sit there and literally wait for him to come right up to you, sit down in your lap, and ask you to put your hands on him.
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